1998 Issues

One of the two Ontario Rental Housing Tribunal executives who'd been contacted about me in 1998 was a lawyer.  At that time, the lawyers in Ontario had a rule that they weren't allowed to become romantically involved with any of their clients, as far as I understand.  This rule doesn't exist any longer, to my knowledge, but at the time it did.

Have heard that the above lawyer has been involved in the special police project...and I don't know if he was trying to stir things up in 1998 or if he was just thinking the way he'd been taught?

On my side, I'd been single for quite a while and I'd written personal letters to men at their jobs several times, with no adverse consequences....  I received various reactions and took different steps to respond, or not....  Have since heard that many people become romantically involved through their workplace, except in a few locations where romance is forbidden (the military is one place where it's forbidden, the last I heard).

After the complainant contacted the two executives above, one of them sent me a letter; and it was stern, as I've written before.  First of all, as I've also written somewhere before, the letter was written after I'd implied I was going to stop sending the few personal letters that I did.  Second, the letter failed to recognize or acknowledge the difference between my business letters and my personal letters.  The letter said only that, "There are comments in your letters of [such and such dates] which imply a personal interest in --- ...."  All my letters were written by hand, at the time, but I'd been very careful to write the business letters in a business format; and after I thought my business with the complainant himself was over, I sent the personal letters in the format of personal letters....  If the executive's letter to me had said, "It's inappropriate for you to send personal letters to an adjudicator," I'd have seen the matter in a different light....

As it happened, the wording of the letter angered me because it seemed to me it was being implied that I didn't know the difference between business and personal matters.  Also, my injury had damaged my face and front teeth; and it seemed to me that I was being made fun of...but that wasn't realistic....  But it was the anger that first motivated me to write the sexual letter, even though there were other issues that affected me--which I've explained elsewhere....

The lawyer above saw things from his view and I saw things from my view....  We all see the world through our own lenses....  At the time, I didn't even know all the executives or who was behind the letter to me....  [I had contact with some other executives, in Toronto, and there were no problems as far as doing business went.]

Since then, this lawyer has sometimes been friendly and sometimes stern in his dealings with me....  Am not sure where he stands right now, if he's still around, but I have no bad feelings towards him.